Tuesday, July 27, 2010

T.B.L. vol. 1: The Ex-Factor

T.B.L. stand for The Becklette Lessons. i would like to define becklette as a becky who is of the age of innocence (or lack thereof). anywhere between teen to early 20s. i want to impart knowledge to my brethren who are of the younger set. there are so many of them out there.

if you do not fall within this age range anymore, you have to admit, you were a becklette once. didn't we, at one point in our lives, say this: i wish i knew then what i know now? some of us grow older, but never grow up. maybe, just maybe, this could still help.

lesson #1: the ex -pectations

in my numerous trysts with our kind, i must have ran across every single representation of our kind out there. but no matter what configuration they arrive in, you have to expect that sooner or later they will exit your life. it's a cold, hard fact. i just want to be upfront about it. it may be as spectacular as how they entered it, or it could just be a sputter.

in life, or specifically, in becky life you will probably have 4 great ex-es (plural of ex-). those 4 ex-es would determine how you go about in your other non-serious flings. they would always be the mold that you would pattern the replacements to.

lesson # 2: there is no such thing as a 3-month rule

wake up. you are not john lloyd (or bea, if you prefer). that concept is for them straight folks. they want to fool themselves into believing that there should be time after every break up. it's a way to give time for their wounded egos to heal.

as beckys we have more ego to spare than the straight ones. so much in fact, it seeps out. so no matter how desperate you are after a break up, most probably it's because you've only experienced it a couple of times. toughen up, soldier. you'll get to a point where you would soon be impervious to the coldness it brings. it's like stitching up a flak jacket. the more inexperienced you are, the thinner it is. as you face more wars, the flak jacket can take more shit coming your way and the higher the probability you'll escape unscathed.

lesson # 3: there is always life after death...

of the relationship, that is. don't despair. if you will, try to let it simmer for just a day (3 at most), but not more than that! anything longer than that and it's just self-flagellation. what you come out as, depends on you. would you be a monster, ready to devour a hapless soul to get your revenge or do you take the high road and become a better man? you don't have to worry what road you take. everybody would eventually take both paths. it's just a matter of when. you would never know how it is to be a better man if you do not face the monster that is within. and likewise, how can you be a beast, if you don't know where to strike the honest man where it would hurt the most?

lesson # 4: do not lose yourself, but LOVE for all it's worth

give your 60% in every relationship (the remainder is what you keep true to yourself). a relationship that imposes you give more than this means you are taken for granted. let me tell you this, it would not end pretty. you see that splatter on the ground that was once a human becky? yes, that's what happens when you've lost the ground under you. you fall...to your death.

despite this, love like the end of the world is coming tomorrow. try to squeeze every single ounce you can out of it. never let go if you can still fight for it. always give it a shot. you never know.

for all it's worth, love!

be a romantic-realist. i know i am. ;)

12 comments:

arkin said...

being that becklette, i actually learned a lot. :)

soltero said...

ay kahit di na ko becklette (actually thunderbeck na lol), may napulot din akong aral ahahah :P

iurico said...

". i want to impart knowledge to my brethren who are of the younger set. there are so many of them out there."

I'd like to impart mine on a more "hands-on and personal" level.

CHos!

joelmcvie said...

I like the "romantic-realist" term. =)

Advent said...

@arkin:
then i've accomplished my goal. hehe

@thunderbeck, este soltero:
haha. natawa ako dun. :)

@iurico:
who doesnt? hehe.

@joel:
thanks! :)

Lasherations said...

note to self: be a romantic-realist. ok. noted. thanks, man for the suggestion...

Advent said...

@Lasher:
anytime :)

Mac Callister said...

malinaw na malinaw haha!salamat sa payo!

VICTOR said...

Becklette sounds French. I like it. LOL.

Advent said...

@mac:
another satisfied customer. hehe

@victor:
come to think of it, yeah it does. i'll make it the etimology. lol

imsonotconio said...

i like this post! keep it up! hehe!

Fickle Cattle said...

These would have been very helpful when I was a young gay man. :-) But the fact that I had no guide also made the whole thing an adventure albeit a pain-ridden (mostly self-induced) one.

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